Monticello, NY Divorce Law Firms & Lawyers

Your question is unclear. If you are divorced already you do not need to divorce again. If by "heidi" you mean the country of Haiti, unless you contest the divorce it's valid.

You need to talk with a local attorney about all of the issues. You may not be entitled to spousal maintenance until after the case is finalized; however, you should be able to ask for him to pay the community bills until the divorce is final since he is making the money. However, there may be a way to get this accomplished quickly and an attorney will help you do that.

You say you bought your co-op after your marriage, but you also say you want to file for divorce. If you haven't filed for divorce, you're still married, and your ex is entitled to half the value of anything you bought during the marriage, as it is marital property and must be split equally between the parties. If you'd left your 401K intact your ex would only be entitled to half the value of your contributions to it made during the marriage. But since you liquidated it and bought another asset, she gets half of the co-op, regardless of whether she contributed to its purchase or maintenance. You bought the co-op with marital assets, and assumedly she hasn't had the benefit of using it- but she will have the benefit of half it's value once the marital property is equitably distributed. You cheated her out of her share of additional  401K contributions she would have received had you continued to contribute to the 401K instead of liquidating it- so fair is fair. You may be able to argue that her share should be reduced by the value of any 401K contributions you made before the marriage, but it's not clear you'd win that argument.